What do you do when you are having a hard time enjoying the time you have to spend with your spouse? Being married for 15 years and changing so much during the course of those 15 years made my relationship with my husband a little difficult to enjoy. When we met, we were young, both enjoyed going out partying and sharing a lot of the same interests. As the years went by, I lost my desire to party and don't really enjoy the risk taking behavior that we used to. I have four kids to worry about and they take up most of my time, so I turned to a counselor for help and this is what I've been learning.